Sometimes we don’t know why things happen, why people come and go, or why we feel the way we feel. It is challenging to wrap our heads and hearts around it. You’ve got to believe that in the moments when you feel you are at your absolute lowest, and you’re being kicked while you are down… It is all happening for a reason.
That is the most challenging time to really believe, that is most challenging time to rally yourself to see something bigger, and know there is a purpose. That is when you must ask for support. Find someone in your life that does not enable you to stay where you are, they encourage you to push yourself and really really reach out side of your own narrow perspective and see there might be something on the other side of the pain, fear, and heartache.
Be it a job, lover, friend, or person that you are having these feelings about you need someone to pull you out of your own spiraling thoughts that are dragging you farther away from feeling good and closer to curling up on the floor in the fetal position. You need someone to listen, love, and support you. You need someone who doesn’t agree that you are a victim. You need someone to say… what part of this do you own? You need someone to ask.. how this is benefiting you?
Take responsibility & utilize your resources!
You may not want to hear what that person has to say, but you need to listen. I have several of those people in my life. I keep them close to me so I can pull myself up from a potentially hazardous thought or from back sliding so far that it’s tough to recover quickly. Identify who those people are, what their value is to you in your life, and how you can really, really, really capitalize on their gifts when you are in a space like this.
If you don’t have someone like this in your life… you are probably WRONG! They are there you are just not tapping into your resources. If you really don’t have one…FIND ONE, or a few. Hire one! Offer to trade for one. Whatever you do, get one. They are imperative to your growth, your development, and your mental health. They will help you find peace inside yourself and ultimately step into your ideal life.
I am one of those people. I am here to help shift thought processes and old belief systems. I am here to support you and kick your ass! If you are at the top of your food chain and you don’t have anyone who is mentoring you, guiding you, or giving you things to think about in regard to your life, I’ve got news for you… You have stopped growing and that doesn’t mean you “made it”. It means you have put yourself and your life on pause. Sure you are going keep doing the things in life that you do every day. Time doesn’t stop, but if you aren’t getting better you just might be getting worse.
Athletes don’t STOP training & neither should you!
What happens to an athlete when they stop practicing? Do they lose what they have learned? No, not necessarily. But what does happen is that after a period of time, they are no longer able to play the way they once did, they are not as agile, and they haven’t learned new ways of attacking the game the way other athletes who are practicing every single day can. In the game of life, personal growth and development is practice. It helps you become more agile, faster, smarter, stronger so that when you get thrown a curve ball you know what to do, and how to handle it. You look for solutions and fetal position is a mere thought for a split second, rather than a three day way of life.
So if you are after the MOON, don’t just look at it! GO GET IT!
No matter what your goals are it is time to stop letting yourself down and get started moving in the right direction. One step after another, just take the steps you need to get a little farther ahead than you were the day before. It’s not about eating the entire elephant it’s about eating one bite at a time, not stopping and forgetting what it is that you want and what your goal ultimately is at the end of the day.