Welcome Guest Blogger Allexia Brewer!
Creative, funky, quirky, unique, out of the box, innovator, leader, artist… some of the words used to describe this raspberry filled in a box of glazed. I’m different, always was. You might know this about me already if you’ve read my previous blog, but one thing you may not know is that my parents?? TOTALLY OPPOSITE. like I was dropped into my family by the FUNKY STORK:) My stork wore Cruella by Nars(the hottest red lipcolor ever), awesome, handcrafted, one of a kind earrings and leather booties. SHE was the ROCKSTAR stork!
“Where did you come from?” A question posed to me by my 17 year old daughter. I pondered that for a long time. I always thought my brother was the black sheep of this family. NOPE. It’s ME. All the way and you know, I’m proud of it, very proud of it. Not that there is anything wrong with my parents, I love them, but they are different from me, a teacher and a business man.Different.
Conservative, old school, just different. I do see glimpses of my spirit in my dad, so maybe it started there, but my absolute NEED to be different, I have no idea where it came from.
It’s a need that dominates every thought and action in my life. From what I wear that has to be different than everyone, to the color of our home that I painted Purple, yes purple, because… well because it was purple and no one had a purple house!! I think about unique ways to live and read, to exercise and draw, to express and internalize.Even where I eat, the experiences I have, where I shop, what I buy, always looking to be unique, needing to be unique. I always live in a creative state. ALL THE TIME. It’s just the way my mind is wired.
So how do we find ourselves, honor ourselves and live our FIERCELY AUTHENTIC SELF when those around us might not get it? When those around us are just different? When conformity is the order of the day? Well, I’m not exactly sure there is a right or wrong way but here’s what I did.
-I embraced who I was hook, line and sinker. I left no room for negotiation.
-I ignored the comments and sneers and remember, I was 13 when I liberated myself from the boring and mundane. YOU CAN DO THIS.
-I began to SEE that even at a young age, being myself was refreshing for those around me. They liked it, they might not have fully have understood it, but they liked it.I could tell:) and that gave me confirmation that being ME was a good thing.
-I got compliments and inquiries.Confirmation. Permission. Admiration. Validation. “That’s cool.” “That’s soo Alexia.” “Where do you shop?” OMG if I only had one cent for everytime I’ve heard that!! This gave me a sense of my power as an individual and as a woman.
So, if setting free your FIERCE AUTHENTICITY is what you need to do to find your voice, live your life and contribute to this world fully and magically, THE TIME IS NOW. SET HER FREE!! It is in that expression that parts of you will awaken, your truth will not be withheld from you. Your voice will no longer be silenced. We need FIERCE AUTHENTICIY in this world. This I do know for sure:)
Empowerment and Authenticity: Loud & Proud
As a leader I wasn’t always authentic and I wasn’t always empowered. I was hiding from who I was and where I had come from. I was trying to be someone I wasn’t. I can remember a time when I would walk into work and not make eye contact with my employees. Not everyday but somedays and it had nothing to do with them. I didn’t dislike them, and I didn’t intentionally mean to be what they presumed as “bitchy” on occasion..
I just wasn’t sure who I was or how a leader would BE with their people. I hadn’t done any work on myself at this point, read any books on leadership, or knew that it was ok to be me. However I didn’t really know who ME was and looking back it showed. This spilled over into my personal life too. I wasn’t a leader in love, life, or business. I was hiding. I was hiding inside of 100lbs of fat, insecurity, know it all attitude, and an insatiable need to be right. I can look back knowing that all of the stuff that I was hiding beneath wasn’t intentional. I was just asleep. I needed to accept myself as I was and begin to investigate what had helped shape me. I clearly had drive, but I was a victim, I had passion but no purpose. Creating an awareness around these things helped me to notice who I was and who I wanted to become. I was able to stop the behavior that was causing the pain and start with a mindset that would shape the woman I am today.
What does it mean to be empowered? What does it mean to be loud and proud?
Where am I?
Who am I?
What do I want to say?
Look for those three questions to help you evolve and when you do walk a little taller, show up a little differently and find a way to be a little more loud and proud.